The old good tennis

When it comes to Valentine’s Day, the spotlight is often on women. Just look at the advertisements. Chocolate truffles, diamond tennis bracelets and floral arrangements abound. Not exactly what men want on February 14th. So what does your husband want on Valentine’s Day?

When I asked mine he answered with a smile, “That’s a stupid question.” In other words, I should already know the answer. Men are not hard to figure out like women. They want to make love on Valentine’s Day in a memorable way. They don’t ask for anything you have to save money for or go into debt over. They just want to have great sex with their wives and who can blame them?

So here are a few ideas to get your special gift ready for Valentine’s Day:

1. Be creative. Brainstorm about different locations in your house for sex that would work, or maybe surprise your husband with one night’s stay at a local hotel. Think of different ways to create mood using candles, music, massages, lotions, scents or foods. For example, you can let those chocolate kisses live up to their name and eat chocolate together when lovemaking.

2. Be aggressive. A man dreams of being pursued by his lover. He longs to feel wanted and needed. Your husband doesn’t want to have sex with a lifeless victim. Be aggressive and take charge in the bedroom. Your husband won’t mind following your lead one bit.

3. Be a planner. Put your love rendezvous on the calendar. Write your husband a note inviting him to a night of great sex. Write the time and date on the bathroom mirror with lipstick. Create a sense of anticipation and plan for a special night of intimacy together.

4. Be attractive. If you were going out to dinner with your girlfriends, you would put on makeup and do your best to look attractive. Give the same care and attention to your appearance before you make love to your husband. When you look your best, you will feel sexier and your husband will be reminded of the beauty he married.

Put the spotlight on the man you love this Valentine’s Day. Don’t worry about what you will receive; instead focus on what you can give. In so doing, you’ll have one of the best Valentine’s Days ever!

Today’s Action Step: What will you do this Valentine’s Day to make your husband feel special?

Choosing the perfect gift for your girlfriend isn’t always easy, especially when she doesn’t give you any clues as to what she might like. Whether you’re giving her several gifts or just one special gift, you want to give her something that she will appreciate and not feel like you didn’t put any thought into the selection.

Here are some suggestions for gifts that will put a smile on her face:

Two Dozen Roses – Roses are the flower of love and there’s nothing more impressive than receiving two dozen beautiful fresh roses along with a handwritten note from you.

Box of Gourmet Chocolates – Dark chocolate, milk chocolate, white chocolate, chocolate truffles, chocolate dipped fruit, chocolate bon bons, champagne truffles, nuts coated in chocolate, heart shaped chocolates – you get the idea.

Perfume or Perfume Set – Some good choices are Lovely perfume, Juicy Couture perfume, Paris Hilton perfume, Euphoria perfume, D & G Light Blue perfume and Happy for Women perfume.

Diamond Earrings – If she has pierced ears, she’ll love a lovely pair of sparkling diamond earrings. You need to decide on stud earrings or dangling ones. Sneak a peak in her jewelry box and see what she prefers.

Fashion Bracelet – A fashion bracelet will look great on her lovely arm and she’ll really know you care when you give this to her. Some good choices are: diamond tennis bracelet, sterling silver bracelet, gold bracelet, pearl bracelet, leather bracelet, charm bracelet, gemstone bracelet or engraved bracelet.

Spa Visit Gift Certificate – Give her a gift that will completely rejuvenate her mind and body. Send her to the spa for a day of pampering. Her stress will melt away and she’ll be in a great mood to thank you again after she returns.

Bath and Shower Set – Most women love to lather on a creamy soap and splash that smells like fruit, chocolate, vanilla or flowers. Skip the ho hum sets you find in many stores and look for something special. If the set comes in a nice box or gift basket, that’s something you should think about getting. Popular brands are Philosophy, The Body Shop, L’Occitane. English Lavender and Organic soaps are also great choices.

Magazine Subscription – If she enjoys reading magazines (look around her place and see what she likes), then this is an easy way to give her a gift she’ll appreciate. Some good choices are: Vanity Fair, O The Oprah Magazine, InStyle, Vogue, Self, Lucky, People, Women’s Health, Women’s Day, Good Housekeeping, Rolling Stone and Cooking Light.

Wooden Jewelry Boxes – Women who wear a lot of jewelry sometimes run out of convenient places to store it all. A beautiful jewelry box made out of cherry or oak wood is the perfect gift for a woman who has lots of jewelry, or is interested in starting a collection. The bigger the box, the more impessive the gift.

Silk Pashima Shawl or Wrap – A pashima shawl is larger than a scarf so it covers the shoulders completely. They are simple to wear but really elegant and classy. Pashima wraps come in many beautiful fashion colors. The best part is you don’t have to worry about size since they are one size fits all.